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Dear Book World…

For the most part I love the book world…the books, the events, some of the amazing people from PAs, cover artists, fellow authors, and promoters. BUT there are several things I’d like to address at the possibility of sounding like a cold-heartless bitch. But I just have to get the shit off my chest. If you have issues with cussing I suggest you skip this post.

  1. Facebook groups – If I wanted to be added to a fucking group…I’d do it myself. I’ve asked nicely but apparently no one gives AF. So then I started quietly removing myself not only from the group but the friend’s list of the person who added me without permission. And you know what? I still get added to groups I didn’t ask to be added to. How hard is it to post a status saying ‘hey I have a group if interested please add yourself’ or ‘hey Shakuita I have a group you might be interested in do you mind if I add you?’ Simple shit right…apparently not as I still get added to groups without my permission. I hate groups with a passion and I’m in as few of them as humanly possible. It’s rare that I add myself to a group and even rarer that I add people to groups without permission. It’s called common courtesy people…learn it!
  2. While we’re on the subject of groups…if you have a group of 2K+ people and you decide to moderate it…cool that’s your right but for the love of all that’s holy please have more than yourself as an admin. The point to me of groups is to connect with either readers or other authors. If I have a question or sale on Monday but my post isn’t approved til Wednesday how the hell does that help me? It doesn’t that’s how.
  3. Fundraisers, donations, or anything else you want to do to raise money for those in need…this is the one people may think I’m heartless over but IDGAF. You want to know why? Last summer I was a split second away from being homeless, car-less, and just plan about to lose my shit. I was behind and late on a lot of things but no one know about it. I was struggling to find a job and ended up taking one that I could barely work because of my disability but I sucked it up until I could find something else even though they only had me working about two days a week, which in MA is not shit! I had to suck it up and borrow money from a family member twice which I of course had to pay back. I was depressed and stressed for months. Now I’m not saying it’s a bad thing to ask for help but what I’m saying is I can’t help everyone especially when I can’t help myself and when I’m getting bombarded with dozens of requests for book donations, money donations, and tagged in this, that, or the other donation/auction post. It makes me irrationally angry. It’s like being put under a spotlight. If I’ve been invited to the event and decide not to participate don’t then tag me in individual posts. It’s like everyday someone is asking for money for something. We are all struggling for the most part. I help when I can when I want to. And as far as these auctions go the delivery of the prizes leave something to be desired. I did bid on stuff in the past and the service I received has turned me off from doing it again. It’s not my fault you donated a $150 package and started the bidding at $25 and that’s as far as it went. I still except to get $150 worth of service and not the $25 I ended up having to pay out of pocket. If you aren’t going to give the same level of service because the package went for way less than you expected it’s not my problem. Also the other service I won at auction I never even received. The person never responded to my messages and I didn’t see any evidence that they even did as asked. So NO I’m not donating shit else for anyone else unless I personally decide to. Bottom line it’s a shitty thing to do and takes away from the legitimate causes that could use attention but people have been screwed one too many times. Yes I could have gotten with the event coordinator and demanded my money back but that screws over the person the donation was for.

Bottom line I’m over it. So I don’t care who you are from now on…if you had me to a group I will delete you from my friends list. I don’t care how long we’ve known each other and I’m not donating my money to anyone who is running an auction of any kind. There are many assistance programs out there. I get it sometimes shit is hard and yes you need a little help. But I’m just over it. It seems people think authors are rich but I’m not. I’m barely taking care of myself so I can’t be always expected to try to take care of someone else. Maybe if I wasn’t getting notification after notification or had a bad experience I’d be more accepting but that’s not the case. Stop trying to make people feel guilty for not donating their money to someone else. And I’m not writing this to call out one particular person..there are several offenders. It’s not a one time thing…this is constantly all the effing time and I have other things to do with my time like write my next book, homework, or live my life. Sometimes I think the easy accessibility of the internet has made being in the book world harder. For the last two years of being an indie author I think I’ve been the most stressed in my life and I did 8 years of active duty military service and that’s saying something.

On a brighter note, it’s FRIDAY! Enjoy it 🙂

We Are Human Too

We Are Human Too

 

We Are Human Too

I’ve been a writer practically all my life and I’ve been an author since Dec 2013. Since then I’ve seen a whole other side to the book world. Things that I would have never thought were a factor. So much unnecessary pettiness and jealousy. As an author we are expected to be these flawless creatures when the truth is we are not…we are human too! *Gasp* What do you mean?

I mean we are not perfect! We have bad days, good days, and in between days just like everyone else. We are expected to be these little balls of sunshine and light, when the truth is some of us are awkward, don’t like to socialize, and day dream 95% of our time. We aren’t intentional trying to be rude or come off as being too good for anyone else. What we are is human. And with being human it’s a fact that we will not do or say the right thing all the time. Sometimes we have just had enough and we snap. No warning…and it’s not because of one thing. It’s many things bottled up together and you just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time when the dam broke. You end up drowning in the backlash because you happened to be the poor unfortunate soul that was the last one to cross the line and we’d had enough.

But once this happens we end up being the bad guy. The drama queen. The one who doesn’t play well with others. But what everyone seems to forget is that we are human too. Everyone’s had a bad day on the job and lost their cool. Authors are no different but yet we are held on this pedestal and the one time we fall from it, the world suddenly seems to stop spinning and everyone losses their collective minds and the “she’s a bitch”, “I can’t believe she said that”, “I’ll never buy her books again” talk goes from 0 to 60 within the blink of an eye.

Someone says something negatively about us and we’re expected to sit there and take it. Someone steals something from us, we aren’t supposed to react in a way that is thought to be distasteful. And the list goes on and on and on. Now I understand everyone has opinions and they are entitled to them but with that being said, it seems everyone is entitled to their voice except authors because people buy our books. They want to be treated like customers but when you treat them like customers they still aren’t happy. They want the customer service and common courtesy aspect of purchasing our books but yet they want us to be approachable. However when we allow ourselves to become comfortable in their presence and share our lives with them, the first time we do something they deem inappropriate according to their standards they become enraged and shun not only us but our work. They say we should be more professional and our attitudes suck but what they fail to realize is we’ve taken them into our circle and have shown them the person behind the mask. However since that person isn’t who they wanted or thought they were all hell breaks loose. Then we are told to sit back and let someone drag us through the mud all because they paid the $2.99-$4.99 four our digital books. So we can no longer be human because a price has been added to our name?

You can’t have say you want us to interact and engage with you more but when we do so in a way you don’t want, immediately try to ruin us because we haven’t conformed to the standard you believe we should. We are human too and that means we are complex and most of us our set in our ways. I’ve never agreed with the concept that I had to like a person to enjoy their talent. My motto has always been “unless you directly burn me, do you boo boo.” Who am I to demand a person act/be/portray themselves in a certain way because I purchased a book from them? No one that’s who. If I don’t like something someone says I move on. I don’t need to bash everything about them because they don’t believe the way I believe or do things the way I would do them. Sometimes I think social media has ruin a good thing. It’s ruined the mystery and intrigue and it’s put people into tiny glass houses that can be crushed at the slightest perceived wrong.

A lot of people will probably be offended by my words and I may even lose a few readers, co-workers, etc but I don’t care. I’m tired of standing in the background and watching people say they are letting someone else chase them from their dreams. I’m tired of watching videos of fellow authors in tears because of something someone’s said or lied about them and now they are devastated. I’m tired of people believing they have the right to say whatever they want to an author because they purchased their book/s. If that is the case then please don’t purchase mine. I am not for sell. My behavior is not for sale. My obedience is not for sale. The last time a person believed because they spend money on someone they had the right to tell them what to do, how to act, and what to believe, I’m pretty sure it was called SLAVERY and I will not be a slave to anyone. The day I even feel like I am a slave to what is my passion I will pull everything that is me from the internet as best I can and take my life back.

Spending money on a product doesn’t make you the owner of the person who developed it. Purchasing music or a movie doesn’t give me the right to tell the artist or actors how they should be living their life. They did a job and they were paid. How they behave outside of that is frankly none of my damn business.

The next time you decided to speak about something that an author does and you don’t like/think they should have done please…if you remember nothing else…remember this one thing: WE ARE HUMAN TOO!!!

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